“And they sent a messenger unto Joseph, saying, Thy father did command before he died, saying; so shall ye say unto Joseph, Forgive I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren, and their sin, for they did unto thee evil, and now, we pray thee, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of thy father, And Joseph wept when they spake unto him” (Genesis 50:16-17).
When Jesus’ disciples asked him to teach them how to pray, the first line of the
prayer he offered as an example began with “Our Father.” Jesus wanted his disciples to understand that the Father is of first importance not of some importance, but first importance. It began with the creation of the first man, Adam, and should end with every man. “So God created man in his own image,” this has been lost on modern society as the sexes engage in social, economic and spiritual warfare, violently so in many cases, locked in mortal combat fighting one against the other. It is not God’s will that men, women and the children should live this way.
Somehow man, the male of the species, has forgotten or relinquished his God ordained
role as the head and not the tail. Equally it seems that women, the female of the species, have forgotten their God ordained role as the help mate and not the equal or master. As a reminder the Scriptures of the Old Testament and Gospel of Jesus in the New Testament mentions man or men over 4,253-times. The Holy Bible provides information about the Father God in heaven and fathers of the earth over 1,568-times. The mentioning of women and mothers only 681-times pales in comparison to the combined total of 5,821-times for man.
These numbers are not offered to make a political or socially motivated statement but to make the point that Christian men and women have very short memories. Many people believe there is a God and that He created man, “male and female created He them,” but all do not believe in God or the Word of God. Today, we observe Father’s Day, and as a father of three beautiful children—two daughters and one son, as well as three darling grandchildren—two granddaughters and one grandson, I could not be happier to be a man (male). As one man who does believe in God and His Word I offer the following ten things for your consideration as the duties of a father toward his children on this Father’s Day:
1. LOVE: “And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him” (Genesis 37:4). Love your children, love them equally by all means and do not drive them to jealousy one against the other, the outcome will be painful for the children and parent(s).
2. COMMAND: “Thy father did command before he died, saying; so shall ye say unto Joseph” (Genesis 50:17). Tell them, do not barter, beg, bribe or plead with them, tell them what they are to do as their father, you are not their friend you are their father. As a father made in the image of our heavenly Father we are to follow his example, He commands.
3. INSTRUCT: “My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother” (Proverbs 1:8). Teach the children the things they need to know to prosper in all areas of life, especially in their relationship with God their heavenly father and they will not depart from it.
4. TRAIN: “When Israel was a child, then I loved him….I taught Ephraim also to go, taking them by their arms, but they knew not that I healed them” (Hosea 11:1-3). Train in
contrast to instruction includes the physical demonstration of how things are to be done with help.
5. REBUKE: “And Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, Ye have troubled me” (Genesis 34:30). They were wrong in their behavior although, they may have justified their actions with a just cause. It was their father’s right to express his disapproval of their actions.
6. RESTRAIN: “For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not” (I-Samuel 3:13). The priest Eli was a man of God that allowed his sons to worship a false god and led others in this practice and their father did not seek to keep them from it. This led to the tragic death of the two sons on the same day and the father shortly afterwards.
7. CORRECT: “If ye endure chastening, God dealt with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chastened not?” (Hebrews 12:7) The child that endures chastening will know the love of the father, simply stated the son is being treating as flesh of my flesh, bone of bone.
8. CHASTEN: “But if ye be without chastisement, where of all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons” (Hebrews 12:8). Any God-loving, God-fearing father would not allow his child to grow up without the merits of chastisement.
9. PROVIDE: “But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” (I-Timothy 5:8). The man who believes in God and does not provide for his own has no right to claim them as his own and is less of a man of God than the man who admits that he does not believe or believe in God.
10. DO NOT PROVOKE: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). God has given man authority to rule over the earth and his household—children and servants—but with rules and statutes handed down by God outlining how it is to be done. Wrath means harm, and God warns us not to provoke Him to harm us and the apostle Paul is warning us not to do the things that would cause our children to seek opportunities to harm their parents.
“Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?” (Hebrews 12:9). On this Father’s Day let us give reverence to our heavenly Father and the fathers that have contributed to making us the men and fathers that we are today. If you are not the father you would like to be or should you not have the relationship you wish with either of your fathers, heavenly or earthly, today is a good day to turn it around. Be blessed and have a Happy Father’s Day!!!
Grady Norman Greene, Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Our Christ
- Origins of Father’s Day (socyberty.com)